The Role of Women

A long time ago if someone asked me what I would want to be when I grow up I would’ve said, “I want to work with animals.” I said this with my experience with animals being only my family pets. I didn’t think that I wouldn’t like it after I experienced it. After watching a lot of dogs that weren’t well trained, nearly gagging trying to pick up vomit and walking rescue dogs that I thought were going to rip my arm out of its socket. I decided I didn’t want to work with animals, I just wanted to work with my animals.

I’ve thought about going back to college, but I don’t want a long term career -unless I can stay at home. Honestly, after going around and around with want I want to do with my life I’m still conflicted. I’ve really just wanted to be a stay at home mom and be there for my kids, but at the same time I want to make something of myself in hopes that I won’t suffer from prenatal depression or something like that.

I know I don’t want to be that business mom that doesn’t nurse her kids, takes them to daycare and hardly knows anything about their daily lives. However, I also don’t want to feel like I’m going to be trapped in a room with children for the rest of my life.

Even though the role of women is changing and we’ve been given many more opportunities will that mean we have to do everything now? Work, clean the house, cook and take care of children. If I end up having to do everything then what’s the point of having a spouse? I know in most cases that situation might be pretty unlikely, but had I stayed with the wrong people that probably would’ve happened to me. It’s not that I don’t want to do any of those things either. If I could find a way to do all of those that would amazing. 

After trying a few things I think passive income is probably going to be my answer. If I can find a way to start making the income now and only have to put a little effort into it later on in life that would be perfect. The only question is what kind of passive income do I want to have. Real estate, books, youtube videos? That I’m not completely sure about. The only thing I am sure about is that though I don’t mind having a full time job now I probably will mind having it if I have to take care of a family and do “wifey duties.”

Even though this path might not be something every women wants. If you’re planning on having a family then please weigh these decisions carefully. I had a mom that worked full time when I was in school -but still pretty much a child. If she had been able to be around me a little more she probably would’ve been more aware of some of the metal illnesses I was experiencing at the time. She only knew the surface level of my life and probably to this day never understood the reality of my feelings at the time. Thankfully, I was able to find people that were able to take the time to help me through my mental issues. However, even though this was my experience please don’t push yourself too hard for your kids. And if your family is struggling to the point where you need a full time job then I’m sure your kids will understand later in life. Just remember that how you feel matters just as much as anyone else feelings.

Happy blogging! 🙂

 

About Me

Hello!

 

IMG_2817Welcome to my blog, I post book related stuff, advice, and a few other random things I come across. I live in the United States and I’m out of High School. My name is Athena, but I’m not actually greek. I have a dog named Zeus who is currently around eleven years old.

I love pets and I plan on becoming a vet tech once I get out of college. I also hope to have more pets when I get older, but I don’t plan on having more than I can handle. I’ve been around dogs all my life and I used to have cats when I was younger. I ride horses too every once in a while. I haven’t had any snakes or birds, but I’ve handled them before and I like both of them! I’ve had fish for a few years, I currently have two females betas -ones a koi and I think she’s super pretty. I used to have guppies, but they breed so fast that they began to inbreed before I had time to get more so they all become infertile and passed away a while ago.

I’ve read plenty of books over the years and I plan to read at least ten this year. I love crime novels and thrillers. I used to read romance when I first started reading outside of school, but lately I’ve moved away from that. I also like books about animals and prehistoric life, such as A Dog’s Purpose and The Clan of the Cave Bear. 

I like having discussions with people about books and I hope that soon there will be plenty of discussions on the blog.

Update November 2018:

So…. I’ve stopped going to college, I realized that getting a job as a vet tech is going to be a lot harder than I thought and the money just isn’t worth it. My dog passed away a few months ago and its still kind of hard on me. If I’m being completely honest I’m not sure who I want to be. Sometimes I think about my future and my mind just goes everywhere. Will I ever get my own house? Will I ever have a better paying job? Will I have to go back to college? Will I ever be somebody? 

I think I just need to focus on one thing, but I just don’t want to miss a better opportunity. I think its about time I used this blog to be real. Sometimes I’ve written things to make myself sound enthusiastic, but I’m really not. I write it hoping that afterwards I will be, but that just hasn’t happened yet. I don’t know, maybe I have a lot more things to work through than I originally thought I did.

Update February 2019

I’m excited to announce that I’ve found a job where I’m able to sustain myself. I love it because the hours are consistent and it gives me plenty of time to write without feeling tired. I look forward to writing more and reading writing the other people here on wordpress have. Thank you guys so much for the support you’ve given over that past few years. 🙂

 

 

How to be a Fearless Writer

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If you want to write a good story, novel, or even a simple blog post you can’t agree with what everyone says, or write about what’s trending at the time. Here are some tips on how to be a fearless writer:

1) What is important to you?

You have to write about something that is important to you if you ever want to write fearlessly.  There may be people that disagree -some might harshly criticize you- but what’s important is that you are true to your readers. You can’t please everyone and soon people will find out what you’re trying to do and they will stop reading. However, if you are true to your readers and you write things that are completely and wholeheartedly something you believe in, you will soon find a group of people that agree with what you believe -maybe even more than you might think.

 

2) What is your symbol?

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If you support LGBT rights, you know a rainbow is normally the symbol for the group of people that do. If you work as a Fedex employee, you’ll know the hidden symbol in the logo. Why should you have a symbol? Simple, so the group of people that believe what you believe in will have an easier time finding you. Symbols how are what help us stay strong and stay together. The symbol will help attract your group of people so they can help support you and make your voice even stronger and heard.

 

3) Block out the haters

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It is good to have healthy criticism, but if someone is giving your content rueful comments without an explanation as to why, then you should probably stop listening. Some people just was to tear others down and it can be easy for them to -especially when they’re behind a screen- keep going and remember there is someone out there that feels the same way you do.

 

Happy blogging!